When life is chaotic… written by Heather from crownheights.org

Our lives are so chaotic and unfocused that we forget to focus on the small things. I have a really chaotic life so there is really not one moment where I am only focusing on one thing let alone only focusing on myself. Learning the many ways to step away from that chaotic things I endure everyday helped me be more willing to go against them and conquer them.

This activity is much different from exercising. It trains my mind. In this activity we focused on our toes. When was the last time you focused on your toes ?Besiiiiiidesssssss when we get our mani/pedis girl?

Balance plays such a big part in our lives. If I cannot balance my emotions and everything going on inside of me how can I possibly expect my life to be any less chaotic?
One yoga instructor, said that what you put out is what you will take in. This is why taking 15 mins out of your day just to think and focus on the little things you don’t usually do is so important.
You are stabilizing yourself so it will ultimately stabilize your whole life. Producing positive energy will also lead to other eventually producing the same.

With so much going on in the world and what’s wrong with it, everyone should have a method that allows them to step away and relax and breathe. These kind of problems come with age. Think about it ! We are not taught to relax.  Stopping to pause and reflect is important.

Just ask yourself what’s more important school work or breathing and we ultimately choose the thing we value more, which is really sad. Yoga is the practice we need to make the little things intentional again.

Yoga has helped really balance myself in a sense where it gave me the skills to ground myself when I’m in any difficult situation.

I definitely encourage anyone to try.

#yoga for everyone #tina_beyondbeauty #lifedoesnthavetobestressful

Strength

Just clarifying that some people think I am strong and maybe I reflect a self righteousness or pretentiousness.
You obviously don’t think I am human
The reality is life takes work we all feel pain  … Many times I want to “tap out” aka give up and be numb or throw my hands up and scream but along with feeling some pain and going over life’s road imps I also feel joy happiness and experience the beauty of life
I am grateful I am still here and I have much of life to still live and enjoy
Do the work – be the you that you want to be.  Life throws you some hard lessons and some pain to feel but that’s growth and that allows you to feel the WONDERS of life
so…If you want to sing out sing out and if you want to be you be you ……there are a million reasons..

 

 

 

 

this is a good read about courage

I am probably not supposed to share like this but this is amazing and I need to reblog it.

http://www.tut.com/article/details/252-the-truth-about-fear-and-how-to-cultivate-courage/?articleId=252

THE TRUTH ABOUT FEAR (AND HOW TO CULTIVATE COURAGE)
BY PAM BAUER March 7, 2016

Have you ever had an exciting new idea but before you took any steps you convinced yourself that it would fail?

When you stop before you start, that’s fear in action. And guess what? You are not alone.

If there is one thing we all have in common, it is fear. Fear is built in as one of the basic functions of the brain. It comes from a part of your brain that evolved first in reptiles. In her book, Steering by Starlight, Martha Beck calls it your inner lizard:

“The entire purpose of your reptilian brain is to continuously broadcast survival fears — alarm reactions that keep animals alive in the wild. These fears fall into two categories: lack and attack. On the one hand, our reptilian brains are convinced that we lack everything we need: We don’t have enough love, time, money, everything. On the other hand, something terrible is about to happen. A predator – human or animal – is poised to snatch us! That makes sense if we’re hiding in a cave somewhere, but when we’re home in bed, our imaginations fixate on catastrophes that are so vague and hard to ward off they fill us with anxiety that has no clear action or implication.”

We have this system in our heads that’s running all the time, trying to keep us safe. It never stops.

What makes the inner lizard feel most comfortable is when it knows its environment – the landscape, the routine, all the usual people, places and things – and nothing changes. Status quo is good because it’s a known known. Exploring new territory, on the other hand, sets off alarms. This is the realm of unknown unknowns and yikes! What is out there waiting to ambush you?

In order to preserve the status quo, your inner lizard tries to crush your enthusiasm to keep you from venturing into new territory. Here is how it works in four simple steps:

1) You think of doing something new
2) It feels vulnerable and risky
3) Fear kicks in
4) You instantaneously have reasons why the idea in step one is dumb and will fail

The result? No action.

The process can happen so quickly you may not be aware of the distinct steps — you just go from step 1 (“I want this!”) to step 4 (“Why bother”). I call this the half-life of enthusiasm. A half-life is the amount of time for the quantity of something to be reduced by half. At this rate of decay, it doesn’t take long before your enthusiasm (and confidence) is down the drain.

A friend of mine started a “365 Project” where she took a photograph every day for a year and posted her photo daily to an online journal. I quietly followed her project, admiring her pictures. It rekindled my interest in photography that had been dormant for years, and the project looked like fun. So I jumped right in and started my own!

Not exactly.

This was something new, so fear piled on. Every time I thought, “Hey, I want to do this,” the critical voice in my head whispered:

You won’t have enough ideas.
You won’t find a picture every day.
Your pictures won’t be good enough.
People will laugh at you.
This is stupid.

I dropped the idea like a hot potato.

How easy was it to shut this down? Fear had me failing before I even started.

Elizabeth Gilbert says: “Your fear is the most boring thing about you. Fear only ever tells you one thing: STOP. Whereas creativity, courage and inspiration only ever want you to GO. Go = motion = change = fascination = possibility = growth = LIFE.”

Often we want fear to go away before we take action. The thing is, that doesn’t happen. Fear doesn’t disappear. You move ahead in spite of being afraid.

Courage comes after action, not before.

After four months of following my friend’s project, I finally took a tiny step forward. I started carrying my camera around. One day I took a picture. The next day I took another. And the next day another. After five days I had some evidence that I could take a picture every day and I started my 365 Project journal with those five pictures.

The way to take action in the face of fear is by taking little steps — steps so tiny your inner lizard won’t notice. Like carrying my camera (nothing scary about that!). And noticing that the world does not end when you take a tiny little action. Then you can take another one.

I completed my 365 Project last summer (take that, fear).

All successes happen one small step at a time.

What can you do – what tiny step can you take – to do the thing you’ve been secretly thinking of doing?

– See more at: http://www.tut.com/article/details/252-the-truth-about-fear-and-how-to-cultivate-courage/?articleId=252#sthash.iVqQqu6K.WAldQPuB.dpufa

– See more at: http://www.tut.com/article/details/252-the-truth-about-fear-and-how-to-cultivate-courage/?articleId=252#sthash.iVqQqu6K.WAldQPuB.dpuf

Mindset …morning ramblings 

Lately life feels like a battle of the minds.  In my unstoppable journey I have realized the only person stopping it is ME.  I am learning to be my own ray of sunshine and changing mindsets does not come easy.  But do you know what does come easy is the ability to keep trying.  Persistence !!! 

Shift your focus to what you CAN do…. 

I struggle with getting up in the morning.  I want to be an early riser.  I have ten alarms go off and even jump out of bed and put the alarm on the other side of the room … Well not much seems to work.  But I still try every day.  It’s a mindset and eventually it will catch I know.  Because I can be an early riser and I will be.  On a side note I try to not get discouraged when I don’t wake early.  I focus on what I can do not what I didn’t do.  

See how that little shift works 

Baby steps …. Have faith, believe it. Try it again and again. 

   
 

Be the change …

Be the change…..you wish the world would be…be-the-change

Recently I go into a vehement debate with a friend that escalated to the point of nonsensical verbal slinging.  I had asked my friend to help me create some important documents and although he took the time and effort to do so (for which I am grateful), he ultimately misrepresented me beyond the fake it point.  Actually it could have been detrimental to my pursuit in social justice but basically he undermined my values and my social position to the point in which i felt they were impaired.  I am somewhat satisfied in my ability to redirect the conversation my thanking my friend several times and acknowledge that I was solely in the wrong for relying on him to do something that was personal and important and I should have done myself.

This brings me to think about the following………..

It doesn’t have to be your faculty, constant pursuit to make others understand our own social position in life.  While it serves a purpose for others to understand our lived experiences we shouldn’t have to feel compelled or obligated to make it our mission to ensure everyone understands such.

What serves us better is to embrace and acknowledge that there are just those who don’t understand or will never understand our position, our character, or our personality.  Often it is an energy sucking enterprise.  We might find it better to maintain that our personal lived experiences can help us to not just express, empathize, and allow us to perceiver through advocacy but also to accredit ourselves the strength to accept that which cannot be changed and that which we cannot control.  Which is other peoples views and understanding of us.  Im not saying to step down from advocacy rather I am sharing the learned experience that changing others opinions of us because of our lived experiences and social position can quite often become a futile road.

Rather…

“Be the change you wish to see in the world”……. (Ghandi)

 

Facials …. What you need to know 

There’s an abundance of information about skin care that’s readily available to us at the click of a mouse. Conceivably your bathroom is already filled with products—peels, masks, scrubs, etc.—that can give you a serious deep clean. And while it’s great to practice good skin care, that doesn’t mean you should be skipping out on seeking professional help. Your complexion will still benefit from the attention of a trained Esthetician even though you may not suffer from severe acne or other chronic conditions.”Getting a facial is important to understand how your skin works and how it reacts to stress, hormones, and the elements,” says Regine Berthelot, the treatment manager at Caudalie Spa in New York City. “People with problematic skin should book a monthly facial. At the least, getting one every season is recommended to keep the skin balanced.”

1. Facials can actually clear your pores. “A professional treatment will fully cleanse your skin in a way that you simply can’t at home,” insists Dr. Marko Lens, a dermatologist and founder of skin care brand Zelens. “Think about it this way,” offers Kate Somerville, founder of the eponymous beauty brand, “You brush and floss your teeth twice daily, but you still need to go to the dentist a few times a year for optimal health.” Facialists normally utilize a safe and gentle steam to really open your pores and allow them to breathe. It’s a don’t-try-this-at-home kind of cleansing.

2. If something’s wrong, you’ll find out why. “Your skin changes over time depending on age, weather, and even hormones,” Somerville explains. “It’s a good idea to have an expert who can help you address those changes, identify skin conditions, and educate you on how to treat them.” If you have great skin now, don’t trust that it will last forever! Not treating a serious condition can lead to long-term skin damage!

3. You’re popping your pimples wrong!!! Every time you squeeze a pimple, you’re risking acne scarring and dark marks. “Regular, professional extractions will help keep the skin clear,” Somerville insists. “It will also help prevent long-term damage you might be causing at home.” You may even find that booking a regular appointment will eliminate any reason to pick and pop yourself. “Facials are essential to prevent imperfections,” adds Dr. Lens.
4. It’s better than the beauty counter. I can’t stress enough that education is key and relevant !!! Do you want a S chiropodist to delivery your baby? Not much difference then when you go to a beauty store and someone tells you what to buy based on looking at your skin under fluorescent lighting? That’s not how we should be purchasing things. “A knowledgeable, licensed esthetician will provide personalized skin recommendations and a regimen that will address your individual concerns.” The best way to know your skin is to examine it, cleanse it, treat it, and then assess it. Once you’re on a great regimen, the esthetician will update it by season. It’s like having your own concierge!

5.Confidence is key. “I struggled with eczema for years,” says Somerville, “and I’ve seen every skin concern imaginable in my clinic. I know exactly what it’s like to regain skin health and feel confident. You should feel comfortable in your own skin.
6. There are some things you just can’t DIY. “You will never have the right products at home to get a professional effect,” insists Dr. Lens. (Take that steam machine as a prime example!) Estheticians and skin care therapists utilize training and techniques to eradicate the bacteria that cause inflammation during breakouts. It has also been proven that regular facials reduce pore size, stabilize oil production, and promote healthy cell growth.

7. You’ll find your happy place.”Facials are so much more relaxing than a DIY,” says Dr. Lens. In fact, many trained professionals use a mix of high frequency, massage, and hot towels to maximize the pampering experience! Everyone knows stress can cause skin issues, so a facial can cure any breakouts and give you a reason to take a few deep breaths. 

So what’s stopping you? Call us and get to relaxing! You’ll be glowing in no time.